Monday, October 27, 2014

Will It Ever End?

I am really frustrated today. It's been 4.5 years and he still hasn't stopped being an abuser. He lives thousands of miles from the kids and I, yet he still manipulates and tries to control things.
 
He sent me an email the other day saying he's "Done".  He wrote that he will never bother the kids again; that he'll never send them money or gifts. Basically, that he is completely done and abandoning them. 
 
Like always, he blames this whole thing on me. He called me a "so called Christian" and mentioned how proud God must be of me for turning the kids against their Dad.
 
But, I don't accept his blame.
 
He did this all by himself.
 
I don't really care about what he says about me. I don't care what he thinks of me. Nothing he says about me bothers me. I don't accept any of it.
 
I do care how it makes the kids feel. He sent a similar message to C. She came out crying. She is upset. She was excited about going out there for Christmas and about seeing the new baby when he/she arrives (his gf is pregnant). She couldn't wait to be a part of her new siblings life. 
 
He took that from her and stomped all over it.
 
So, like I said, will it ever end??

4 comments:

Lisa said...

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Faith Brady said...

Some victims of abuse will accept the blame and keep on blaming themselves – this is an unfortunate psychological cycle. The moment you stop blaming yourself and begin to resist the abuser is the turning point. So it was great to see when you wrote you “don’t accept his blame” in this post. I wish you more strength!

Faith Brady @ KHunterLaw